Connecting Women in Recovery

Newcomer Tips

How will I deal with the holidays?

We all have expectations for the holidays. We want everything to go right, be fun, but the reality for some is that it’s a sad time of the year. Stress, fear and sadness comes from many directions. It can be from over committing, trying to make everything perfect or loneliness. But for most of us it has to do with our daily struggle because of addiction.

We’re not alone. There are many that struggle, even the ones that fake their way through it. When we see all those cheerful people in the malls looking all happy, you’d be surprised how many actually feel blue. They just don’t want to be honest and show their true feelings. Many of us have to deal with the crazy relatives, parties you don’t want to be at, or the long lines at the stores. Why do you think they call it: “Surviving the holidays.”

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Happy SOBER Holidays

Last night, 26 women came together for a workshop called “Happy Sober Holidays”. Ann, Shiba, Air and Sara shared their challenges with holidays – family, friends, expectations, perfectionism, finances, etc. – and how they have dealt with these challenges. Their honesty and wisdom was inspiring.

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Newcomer Tip 10- Gratitude

This is the last post in our Newcomer Tips blog series. You can view all 10 posts by clicking on “newcomer tips” under the categories menu on the blog page. Just a reminder, these tips are not a replacement for going to meetings and working the 12 steps. They are to be used in addition to meetings and steps. The first few months of sobriety are hard. These are some ways to help get you through it.

In the last blog we talked about Doing Service Work to secure your sobriety. The last topic we will cover in this series is gratitude. A grateful heart will never relapse.

Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.

Melody Beattie

What Do I Have to Be Grateful For?

When we come into recovery typically our life is a train wreck. Somedays it’s hard to be grateful for anything. Let me help you out by giving you a few to work with.

  1. Being Sober

Did you drink or drug today? No? Good. That’s a huge accomplishment. It’s in an addict’s nature to drink and drug. You defied the odds today. Kudos to you. Be grateful.

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Newcomer tip #9: Doing Service Work

This is a blog series that will be focusing on one tip a day for newcomers. These tips are not a replacement for going to meetings and working the 12 steps. They are to be used in addition to meetings and steps. The first few months of sobriety are hard. These are some ways to help get you through it.

Yesterday’s blog was about Getting a Sponsor. This is nonnegotiable if you want to stay sober. Now let’s talk about being of service.

What’s the best way to get out of your own head, stop thinking about yourself and your problems? Is it therapy? Nope. Is it attending meetings? Nope. What is it you ask? Service work. Volunteering. Helping others. Call it what you want but it’s all about being self-LESS instead of self-ABSORBED.

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