Connecting Women in Recovery

12-step

The Very, Very Beginning

Some of you may know the history about the relationship between co-founder of *Alcoholics Anonymous, Bill Wilson and Sam Shoemaker. For those who don’t here’s a brief account.

Sam-ShoemakerDr. Samuel Moor Shoemaker was an Episcopalian priest, the rector at Calvary Episcopal Church in New York City. He was also a leader in the American Oxford Group. The Oxford Group is where the founding members of AA would meet before there was even an official group called Alcoholics Anonymous. AA adopted the 12 steps from the Oxford groups 6 tenets. Bill Wilson just took the loopholes out of the 6 tenets and when he was done writing them out, they turned into the 12 steps as we know them today.
There was a bowery style rescue mission attached to Calvary Church called Calvary mission. Ebby Thatcher (the man that 12 stepped Bill W.) was staying at Calvary mission when he made the call to Bill in November, 1934.

It was at the Oxford Group meetings held at Calvary Church that Bill met Sam Shoemaker. Sam became one of Bill’s early spiritual mentors and Bill credits Sam with teaching him the principles (6 tenets) that became the Twelve Steps as we know them today.

Partial history excerpt from Jim (anonymous) from SoberyRecovery forums

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EGO is a Four Letter Word

You hear lots of reasons why people relapse in recovery. Which one is the worst offender?  Sometimes you hear it’s resentments or dishonesty. Other times it’s a relationship or not going to meetings. Sometimes you can get a little closer to the truth when you hear it’s selfishness. I’ve heard them all and I’ve used them all too. So which one is the worst? None, because they all steam from one evil, ugly thing. The ego. That little three letter word causes so much destruction and we aren’t even aware it’s calling the shots. But how can all those reasons for relapse above be caused by the ego? Let’s look at some examples:

My Ego Tells Me I’m ALL THAT!

Resentments- Why do we get resentments. Lots of reasons but let’s focus on just 3:

  1. Judgement: I think I’m better than you (ego) or worse than you (ego in reverse).
  2. Hypocrisy: I hold you to a higher standard than I do myself. Ie: “You lied to ME!!!” Umm… You never lied to anyone? “You stole from ME!!” Umm… You’ve never stole from anyone? My ego tells me I’m ALL THAT!
  3. Fear: I’M not going to get something I want. I’M going to lose something I have. Umm.. Isn’t everything on earth God’s and He’s just letting you use it anyway? My ego tells me that I have to run the world (which is pretty scary). You can’t manage your own life and expect your Higher Power to do it too.

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March 28th, 2015 was our Sponsorship Workshop. We filled up the Recovery Room at the Washtenaw Alano Club.

Forty womSponsorship Workshopen gathered for two hours to listen to four panelists talk about their experiences bringing their sponsees through the 12 step process.

There were yummy snacks and for the last portion of the workshop there was a Q & A session with questions from the “Ask-It Basket.” There was lots of Fellow-shipping going on before, at break, and after the workshop. A great time was had by all!