Switching Addictions, More Common than You Think
When some people become sober they trade off their “drug of choice” for something that can seemingly be harmless. There’s shopping, sweets, sex, gambling, work, exercise, ect. All of these things, in moderation, are fine and many times normal activities. BUT when you use them to excess, you have a whole new addiction on your hands.
Anonymous vs UNanonymous, What’s the Right Choice For You?
I recently wrote a blog called Does Our Silence Define Us? The Downside to Anonymity and a few things were brought to my attention that I missed in that article. The first point is who should break their anonymity, and secondly, why being open about your recovery is important.
Who Should Break Their Anonymity
If you are newly sober, you should probably solidify your sobriety by doing these three things before you get “loud and proud” at a public level about your recovery.
On Tuesday May 19, 2015 twenty ladies attended a private recovery-infused yoga session, booked just for the Ann Arbor Women’s group.
Executive director of Recovery-Infused Yoga, Lindsay Dolan, led us through an invigorating hour of “poses with a purpose.” We each chose an intention for our practice and then focused on our bodies, seeking a calm, non-reactive mind.
Positions were challenging for most of us, but beneficial to mind/body/spirit. We ended the hour relaxed and strangely rested. A2WG (i.e., Eileen) provided cold water and tasty protein bars. Many thanks to Lindsay for sharing Recovery-focused Yoga with us.
Amy T. (Member of the A2WG board)
“Anything we can do to help foster the intellect and spirit and emotional growth of our fellow human beings, that is our job. Those of us who have this particular vision must continue against all odds.
Life is for service.”
— Mr. Roger’s Neighborhood, Fred Rogers
I couldn’t agree more with Mr. Rogers. The recovery literature states over and over that we are to be of service to others, help others, carry a message of recovery, be altruistic ect. which makes sense since we are told selfishness is our biggest barrier to long term recovery and happiness (along with resentments). So to do selfless actions is the “cure” for selfishness, right? But is there a point where there is too much service work?
Times Have Changed
The Big Book was written in 1939. There was only one woman in *AA at the time. The man’s responsibility was to work and pay the bills. The women took care of the household and the children. Most households had two parents back then. Divorce wasn’t commonplace. Men in recovery went to work and after work they could dedicate their evenings to AA and helping other alcoholics. They weren’t tied to the house with children or household chores. Ok, I know I’m generalizing but as a whole, the 1930’s and 1940’s were very much like this. During that time AA was mostly a men’s organization.